Let’s face it; planning the birth you truly want to have is tough enough. There’s a lot of work you have to do to educate yourself, un-learn the myths and misconceptions, shift your mindset, do deep inner work to release fears and anxieties, and then there’s also that search for the care provider who willContinue reading “What to Do When Your Friends and Family Don’t Support Your Birth Plan”
You trusted your body, and at the same time you were told that you “failed” to progress and you “don’t go into labour on your own”.
If you had a cesarean, you may feel that you “failed” at birth.
But you didn’t.
The truth is that the system failed you.
A lot of advocates will tell you that the system is “broken”, but I have since realized that the system isn’t broken at all. It’s working exactly the way that it was designed to work: the goal is to extract a live baby from a live mother, and do so in the most efficient and cost-effective way possible.
Hospitals and maternity care are a business.
That means that your experience isn’t something they can measure, and it’s not important to their bottom line.
If you survive birth, and your baby survives, then they did their job and they pat themselves on the back for that.
In my usual scroll through Facebook I came across a post from Midwife Thinking. For those of you who don’t know, Dr. Rachel Reed is a midwife in Australia, where maternity care is even more polarized and politicized than here in Canada. I often look at what is happening in Australia and the UK whenContinue reading “Why Women Birth Outside the System: How a Group of Researchers Came to the Conclusions We In Birth Advocacy Work Have Been Saying For Years”
It’s begun. The divisive topic of home vs hospital has reached its peak, thanks in part to Covid 19, but also thanks to a new generation of women and birthing people who just don’t want the status quo anymore. Predictably, the outbreak of the virus has been used as an argument FOR or AGAINST homeContinue reading “If You Think That We’re Just Avoiding Hospitals Because of Covid, You Aren’t Paying Attention”
Limitations on support people, assurances that the hospital is the “safest place to birth”, restrictions and bans on home birth, and now this latest disgusting power play that was brought to my attention through my connections in the birth community. Behold, exhibit A, a letter to colleagues (NOT clients) telling care providers that the hospitalContinue reading “Coercion and Control in the Birth Room: How Hospitals Are Using Covid-19 As An Excuse To Trample Hard-Won Rights”
First of all, I just want to thank everyone who has been following me on Facebook and has contributed a story to the Birth Trauma Project. I want to assure you all that I will get back to work on reaching out and getting these stories written and posted, but with the nature of theseContinue reading “There’s No (Safer) Place Than Home Right Now”
Why We Need More Birth Advocates Who Aren’t Birth Professionals Our maternity care is in crisis! Everyone who has ever tried to exercise true Informed Choice in our system knows this is the case. Families who deviate from the standards of care, such as those choosing home birth, VBAC, Breech Vaginal Birth, Twin Vaginal Birth,Continue reading “Birth Advocacy is for ALL of Us!”