What to Do When Your Friends and Family Don’t Support Your Birth Plan

Let’s face it; planning the birth you truly want to have is tough enough. There’s a lot of work you have to do to educate yourself, un-learn the myths and misconceptions, shift your mindset, do deep inner work to release fears and anxieties, and then there’s also that search for the care provider who willContinue reading “What to Do When Your Friends and Family Don’t Support Your Birth Plan”

4 Reasons to Take Charge of Your Birth

You trusted your body, and at the same time you were told that you “failed” to progress and you “don’t go into labour on your own”.

If you had a cesarean, you may feel that you “failed” at birth.

But you didn’t.

The truth is that the system failed you.

A lot of advocates will tell you that the system is “broken”, but I have since realized that the system isn’t broken at all. It’s working exactly the way that it was designed to work: the goal is to extract a live baby from a live mother, and do so in the most efficient and cost-effective way possible.

Hospitals and maternity care are a business.

That means that your experience isn’t something they can measure, and it’s not important to their bottom line.

If you survive birth, and your baby survives, then they did their job and they pat themselves on the back for that.

How to Get Over Your Fear of Birth

When I think back to what “went wrong” with my first birth and what can “go wrong” for so many new mothers, they all have one thing in common: We didn’t know what we didn’t know. I touched on this a little bit in my previous post, but what I didn’t talk about was howContinue reading “How to Get Over Your Fear of Birth”

Why Women Birth Outside the System: How a Group of Researchers Came to the Conclusions We In Birth Advocacy Work Have Been Saying For Years

In my usual scroll through Facebook I came across a post from Midwife Thinking. For those of you who don’t know, Dr. Rachel Reed is a midwife in Australia, where maternity care is even more polarized and politicized than here in Canada. I often look at what is happening in Australia and the UK whenContinue reading “Why Women Birth Outside the System: How a Group of Researchers Came to the Conclusions We In Birth Advocacy Work Have Been Saying For Years”

If You Think That We’re Just Avoiding Hospitals Because of Covid, You Aren’t Paying Attention

It’s begun. The divisive topic of home vs hospital has reached its peak, thanks in part to Covid 19, but also thanks to a new generation of women and birthing people who just don’t want the status quo anymore. Predictably, the outbreak of the virus has been used as an argument FOR or AGAINST homeContinue reading “If You Think That We’re Just Avoiding Hospitals Because of Covid, You Aren’t Paying Attention”

Coercion and Control in the Birth Room: How Hospitals Are Using Covid-19 As An Excuse To Trample Hard-Won Rights

Limitations on support people, assurances that the hospital is the “safest place to birth”, restrictions and bans on home birth, and now this latest disgusting power play that was brought to my attention through my connections in the birth community. Behold, exhibit A, a letter to colleagues (NOT clients) telling care providers that the hospitalContinue reading “Coercion and Control in the Birth Room: How Hospitals Are Using Covid-19 As An Excuse To Trample Hard-Won Rights”

Birth Trauma in Fraser Health: Zoe’s Story

This post is part of a series we are doing for our local community with focus on Obstetric Violence at Abbotsford Regional Hospital. Some of the responses were given privately in direct message and some were posted in the comments thread of a post calling for stories. Last names have been protected and permission wasContinue reading “Birth Trauma in Fraser Health: Zoe’s Story”

Birth Trauma in Fraser Health: Megan’s* Story

This post is part of a series we are doing for our local community with focus on Obstetric Violence at Abbotsford Regional Hospital. Some of the responses were given privately in direct message and some were posted in the comments thread of a post calling for stories. Last names have been protected and permission wasContinue reading “Birth Trauma in Fraser Health: Megan’s* Story”

Birth Trauma in Fraser Health: Tamara’s Story

This post is part of a series we are doing for our local community with focus on Obstetric Violence at Abbotsford Regional Hospital. Some of the responses were given privately in direct message and some were posted in the comments thread of a post calling for stories. Last names have been protected and permission wasContinue reading “Birth Trauma in Fraser Health: Tamara’s Story”

Birth Advocacy is for ALL of Us!

Why We Need More Birth Advocates Who Aren’t Birth Professionals Our maternity care is in crisis! Everyone who has ever tried to exercise true Informed Choice in our system knows this is the case. Families who deviate from the standards of care, such as those choosing home birth, VBAC, Breech Vaginal Birth, Twin Vaginal Birth,Continue reading “Birth Advocacy is for ALL of Us!”