How You Can Help Your Partner or Loved One Have an Empowered Birth
As a partner, friend, or family member, you play a key role in the support network of the pregnant people in your life!
They are looking to you for reassurance, support, and to help them through this transitional time whether it’s becoming a parent for the first time or they’re on their fifth baby!
What you say and do can make or break their confidences, so if you’re here then it’s a good bet you want to avoid the second one!
How You Can Help
The good news is that the resources here at Empowering Moms can help direct your loved one to information that can help them learn their options, their rights, and how to advocate for themselves in their maternity care! By discovering this website you now have the knowledge to pass down to your loved one so they can fully access the resources and start Taking Charge in their Birth. As part of their Support Network, here are some other ways to help the pregnant people in your life:
Tell them about the Facebook Community for Empowered Moms and encourage them to join
Through the Facebook Community for Empowered Moms, your loved one will receive weekly tips for a variety of topics related to Pregnancy, Birth, Postpartum, Breastfeeding, and more! They’ll also gain a larger network of support from other expecting moms; with additional connection to doulas, midwives, nurses, and birth advocates. Each month there is a new theme, with experts in the field coming in to talk Live and even answer questions from our members!
By inviting your loved one to utilize this community, you will be able to help them get the information on their rights, their options, the latest evidence and practices, and how they can have an Empowered Birth! We also have a Free Empowered Birth Workshop inside this community, which runs every 6-8 weeks. You can learn more about that here.
Follow the Facebook Page, encourage them to do the same, and share the posts regularly
When a new blog post is released we’ll be posting it on our Facebook Page. We also routinely share articles, events, promotions, and other valuable information from the pages of our affiliates and others in the birth world whose mission is to empower moms in their births. By sharing the content on the page often, you increase exposure and it’s more likely to help other people in your life who are pregnant or may become pregnant in the future.
Share Positive Birth Stories and Educate Yourself on Birth
You want the best for your loved one and you may even be worried for them considering how many horror stories are out there about things “going wrong” in labour! That said, your pregnant loved one can pick up on your fear more than you realize, and that can cause them to doubt themselves whether you intended to worry them or not. The best thing you can do is educate yourself using the resources here at Empowering Moms and encouraging your pregnant partners, family members, and friends to do the same.This will prevent them from getting out-dated information that may not apply to today’s maternity care practices and guidelines, or that is not based in evidence, and your loved one will be less likely to receive mixed messages that lead to misconceptions about their pregnancy or how to best plan their birth and postpartum.
Read The Birth Partner by Penny Simkin
This guide book will have everything you need to support your loved one in their birthing time. You can pick up a copy and visit the website for more information.
Help them get a Doula
A doula is an investment for an empowered birth and studies have shown that this one-to-one support can help lessen the perception of pain in labour and birth, keep both the birthing person and their partner calmer, help reduce the number of interventions in birth, lower the likelihood of a cesarean, help get breastfeeding off to a good start, and lead to a more positive birth and postpartum. Here at Empowering Moms, we have a wide network both in the Lower Mainland where we are based as well as connections across North America. We can also refer clients residing in BC to the Doula Services Association for more information and resources. If you would like to help your loved one find a doula in your area, contact us at info@EmpoweringMomsBirth.ca
Investment in a doula is usually about $1K though some charge less and some charge more based on level of experience and what their package includes for additional services and support. It’s best to start interviewing early in pregnancy and clients of Empowering Moms are encouraged to invest in a doula as part of their birth planning. As part of the larger support network, you can help ease the financial strain of this investment by enlisting other family and friends of your pregnant loved ones in pooling their money toward a doula, rather than purchasing the usual baby outfits, diapers, etc.
Give them the ultimate gift for an Empowered Birth!
Looking for the perfect gift to get your loved one that will last much longer than a new baby outfit or other baby gear? Empowering Moms has a special program to help them Take Charge of their Birth and avoid birth trauma, preventable cesareans, and go into their parenting journey with confidence in their body and their ability to make decisions for themselves and their families. You can learn more about the Take Charge of Birth Program and encourage them to apply today!
When your loved one has the Right Support from you and the other important people in their life, they’ll automatically feel more confident to Take Charge in their Birth.
Social approval is a very powerful motivator and can influence the choices your loved one will make for their birth.
Unfortunately our current birth culture has led to more intervention, pressure from care providers, and 1 in 3 pregnancies are now resulting in a cesarean that could otherwise have been prevented had the mother had the support to choose what was best for them. When your loved one feels they have a choice and that you believe in their ability to make decisions that are best for them, not just what’s normalized in our birth culture, you automatically become a valuable part of their journey to an Empowered Birth!